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10 Problems Your Date Won’t Tell You About

Dating is a tricky proposition at best, whether just a sexual
laiason forpleasure’s sake or looking for a special
person or persons. Sometimes, despite our best efforts,
we don’t know what went wrong and can’t seem to
find out. There are some things that are hard to find a way
to tewll your partner, and though they might tell everyone
else, you may never hear what went wrong. So here is a short
list of things to consider if your dates aren’t working
out.
1.) Personal Hygeine
This has to be #1 on my list. It’s hard to tel someone,
male or female, that they have a cleanliness problem, especially
around the genitals. You may be a fairly clean person and
therefore this is not necessarily a personal reflection
on your habits, but different people need different levels
of personal care. Maybe you sweat more than some, or your
sweat carries more odor-causing impurities than others
do. Some can bathe every other day, while some need every
day, and some need an extra bath or shower right before and
after sex. If you tend to perspire a lot in the hidden areas
(crotch, armpit, behind the knees, for instance), you
need to give an extra cleaning to your privates. That means
a douche and rinse before sex, ladies, and wash the crack
of your ass, guys. That little extra attention pays big
dividends of appreciation from the opposite sex.
2.) Bad Breath
A little mouthwash before sex is helpful too. If you are
a smoker, diabetic, have problems with your teeth, etc.,
you may not notice the problem. You can’t help it when
you are used to it. But your partner in passion will notice.
3.) Partner Felt Uncomfortable
Sometimes a partner is uncomfortable with you for reasons
they don’t understand. I think people with a religious
or highly moral background are a blessing to the whole world,
but when they have an emotional and physical need that prompts
them to consider sexual activity, it can create an almost
traumatic conflict. If your partner doesn’t seem
at ease, they may not admit it, but if you are sensitive enough
to feel a lack of enthusiasm, let that sensitivity ask is
they feel uncomfortable, and if you feel it does, tell them
they don’t have to have sex at all. If they don’t
hang around, you did the decent thing, and if they do and
you want to keep them, then when they do, their gratitude
will express in honest passion that is worth the wait.
4.) Too Much Negativity
It’s hard not to feel a bit mean, hard, and distrustful
after a long period of rejection, but remind yourself the
other person isn’t rejecting you; they are there.
And how do you know they haven’t felt the same? A cheerful
and sweet attitude will pay off. Just remind yourself that
you want someone that’s glad to be there. So do they.
5.) Too Much Yucky Stuff
Some people are more limited in what they are willing to
do than others. Befor trying anything more than kissing,
basic touching, and/or plain missionary, be sure they
like it. Oral might be the rage, but some neither enjoy giving
or receiving it. Make any encounter as good for both as possible.
6.) Too Quick
Be sure to find out what foreplay the other likes and take
your time. There’s usually no rush. ‘Nuff said.

7.) Unskilled
As much as some of youu may hate the Bible being quoted here,
it says “Study to show thyself approved”. That’s
good advice for everything you do in life, sex included.
Read anatomy books and sex manuals, even some male/female
psychology. Practice techniques on a pillow if you have
to, including kissing. Think about the way things would
be done to turn you on, and then practice and apply them.
8.) Got Their Feelings Hurt
You should be careful the jokes you tell or the criticisms
you make of others until you know something about the person
you’re with, lest you unintentionally offend them.
For instance, if their brother or father is an attorney
and you say something about “cocksucking lawyers”,
you have done unnecessary damage. If you find out later
you did something like that, hunt themup and apologize,
even if thry were being overly sensitive. And be more careful
next time you are with someone.
9.) Too Clinging
Remember that a date is fun, it’s not a committment.
Don’t have your heart on your sleeve or talk serious
affection and feeling unless you have been going out a few
months. It may chase them away and you’ll get a reputation
as a complication instead of as a good time. If you are too
emotionally fragile, perhaps you should (seriously!)
get some counselling and not date until your emotional
carnage has been dealt with.
10.0 Finally, have some class. If he was worth going to bed
with, don’t go telling everyone about his “little
winkie”. Guys, don’t go telling every one about
your bedroom activity, even if she’s the hottest thing
since the Towering Inferno. Don’t bum off your date,
not long distance phone calls, groceries, money, cigarettes,
T-shirts, ANYthing! And if they are good enough for you
to undress in private, they should be good enough to be seen
with in public. Sometimes we are too casual, but let’s
not forget that there is good etiquette involved in even
a one-time encounter, and just sharpen our social skills
and good manners. They are often more important than great
sex.

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