Advice for women - being *SAFE* on line (repost)
[Another old chestnut that I’m reposting for new members.
Apologies in advance to those of you who have already read
it.]
At least one and maybe more members here have been victims
of violence after meeting men from Adult FriendFinder. This fate could
theoretically befall any gal who meets a guy on line. (Or,
for that matter, in a bar, via a newspaper personal ad, etc.)
Two basic rules:
1) Always verify the identity. If the guy doesn’t have
the Adult FriendFinder service “Confirm ID” (most don’t),
you might want to ask him to get it. If not, get a *land line*
phone # (not a cell!) and see if you can cross check his name
against the phone # by looking it up in a public library’s
phone books (or on phone# sites that are available on the
web - just put “phone number search” into g00gle).
If he says his # is unlisted, try to call him at work. You can
always set up a time when he can answer the phone and give
you a coded reply: this works even if he’s married.
(You say: “Is Jack there” and he says “No,
there’s no George here.”) Bottom line: there
*MUST* be a way for you to verify his identity, and tie him
to a land line phone #.
2) Let a friend know when and where you will be meeting him.
Your friend should have all of the available info. If your
friend is an on-line friend, they should have *your* needed
info. in order to make a police report. This is true even
if you are meeting the guy for coffee. (Warning to married
women: your real-life g/fs may not be the best people to
choose for this task. Some of them might have a “guilt
attack”, and decide that your hubby should know.
Believe me, I used to write romance advice letters: I’ve
heard of this happening more than once!)
I know these things seem “obvious”, but they
could save you from being the victim of violence. (Just
taking these steps + letting him know that you are doing
so could be enough to scare away a potential predator.)
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